How to Eat a Girl Out. Eating pussy, licking out, going down on someone, eating someone out…there are about as many ways to talk about oral sex as there are ways to do it. Cunnilingus focusses on clitoris stimulation, which can be seriously enjoyable when done right: even more so than penetration for many people.
If you’re wondering how to lick someone out really well, give this step-by-step pussy-eating guide a read, with tips from certified sex expert.
Step 1 – Kiss your way down there
Make your down their body slowly. To amp up the tension, mark this path with small kisses beginning from their neck and proceeding down to their pelvic region. “Build arousal by using your tongue and mouth to stimulate their whole body without going near their vulva, giving them a taste of what’s to come,” says Uren.
Eye contact is fine. It’s an intense move, but depending on who you’re going down on, it could be very creepy or it could be very hot. You feel it out and consider the context of the hookup – is it someone you’ve just met (maybe pass!) or is it a longer-term relationship (see how it goes!)?
Before you take the plunge, experiment with some sensual kissing up and down their inner thighs. Not totally necessary, but I’m just saying they probably wouldn’t not be into that – a little teasing like this can increase the anticipation.
Step 2 – Find the clitoris
Once you’ve built up some tension, move on to the genital area. “When they are fully aroused, you can gently move into clitoral stimulation by tracing your tongue around the outside of their clitoris,” says Uren.
In case you’re unsure of what that is, it feels a lot like a bean and can be found on top of the labia (the fleshy “lips” of the vagina). There’s no shame in asking for directions; if you can’t find the clit, ask them to guide you.
Before you really get started, you need to keep in mind that the clitoris is super sensitive and has more nerve endings than the penis. It’s incredible – and it’s the source of orgasms for most people with vulvas.
So, familiarise yourself with the clitoris. Start thing off right by DJing (using your fingers to rub the clitoris) then introducing your mouth and tongue – this is a great opportunity to tease your partner, if they’re into that.
“Use the flat of your tongue for more broad stimulation over the clitoris and labia rather than just using the tip, as this can feel a little pointy,” suggests Uren.
“If your partner isn’t too sensitive and wants more intense clitoral stimulation, you can use one hand to lightly lift the area above the labia up to release the clitoris from the clitoral hood.”
Step 3 – Stimulate their whole vulva
While the external part of the clitoris is the most sensitive, the majority of the organ (and it is an organ) is actually hidden inside the labia and around the vagina. Stimulating other parts of the clitoris can lead to a more satisfying experience and intense orgasm.
So, while you focus most of your attention on the (external) clit, don’t be afraid to mix it up and lick, kiss, suck other parts of their vulva and labia.
“For more intense sensations, you can use your whole mouth to stimulate their vulva – a little similar to motorboating but slower, more sensual, and definitely no sound effects,” suggests Uren.
When it comes to the clit, lick it up, down, and all around, but remain focused on and aware of the pressure of your tongue. Start off lightly and gradually increase the pressure and speed if their body responses and noises point to yes. You can also play with the shape of your tongue on the clitoris in order to mix it up. Some people like a broad flat tongue, others like a more pointy tip. It really is a matter of personal preference and exploring what your partner prefers by listening to how their body reacts.
You can also try the Kivin Method, if you’re feeling really brave. It claims to get women and people with vulvas to orgasm in a matter of minutes… Whether you believe that or not, it’s fun to try! It’s actually really simple: instead of coming at oral sex from in between your partner’s legs, approach it from the side and lick up and down.
Step 4 – Ask if they like it
Seriously, ask if they like it. Not only does this add a good intro to dirty talk (very important!), but also, not all vulvas are the same – far from it. Vulvas come in all shapes, sizes, colours, sensitivities, so you’re going to run into many different preferences depending on your partner at the time.
More pressure or a certain tonguing may be better for one person versus another. They may prefer it slow, or hard, or in circles, or up and down. If you’re already passing this with flying colours, asking how they like it is a 100 per cent turn on anyway and opens the door to more honest sexual communication.
Plus, don’t be afraid to show them how much you like it. “Be enthusiastic and let your partner know you are enjoying yourself to help them relax into it,” suggests Uren.
Step 5 – Try using accessories
Using a sex toy while going down on someone can ramp up the experience even further. If they’re okay with it (you need to ask beforehand), you could use a bullet, wand vibrator or clit vibrator on their clitoris while fingering them or focusing on other parts of their vulva.
Some people really enjoy internal stimulation during oral, so you could try using a dildo or vibrator alongside sucking or licking their clitoris. Pro tip: “Try stroking the front wall of their vagina rather than going for hard thrusting,” says Uren.
Oh, and we can’t say this enough: try out a touch of flavoured lube to make the experience all the more exciting for you…
“Use a sex positioning pillow or a regular cushion to prop their hips up, as it opens the whole genital area and will save your neck! This position is also great if you want to explore rimming,” suggests Uren.
Step 6 – Get other areas involved
The same way some people with penises like to have their balls played with during a blow job, you might want to stimulate other parts of your partner’s vulva or body while you’re eating them out.
Run your fingers down their thighs, grab their hips, or reach for their breasts/chest and massage those too if that’s what they’re into. There are plenty of options.